I received a copy of this poem while on my mission. I think it sums up perfectly how worth can be measured differently by different people. [Read more…]
As Shirly and I have gone through the labyrinth and challenges of infertility, we have encountered many wonderful souls over the years who have provided us with a measure of comfort and solace. When I shared a link to my blog post on our misadventures with foster adoption on Facebook, one kind sister responded, “Good article. thanks for letting us into your world. sorry for all the grief.”
Well, I hadn’t thought of it in those terms. I mean, yes, there’s definitely grief and pain, but there’s also a degree of peace in it as well. Because you know what? There are blessings to be had from being childless.
I got the following message through the website today:
Hi, I am LDS and have adopted and came across your page. Have you considered foster care, i.e. fostering to adopt? I have adopted two newborns in two years, one has returned to a family member, and I’m not sure about baby #4’s future… Whether the parenting is foster or forever, it’s the kind of amazing that is impossible to put into words. If you’d like to learn more about this route, please feel free to send me a note!
Oh boy. Here we go. [Read more…]
As I indicated in my infertility post on my personal site, there are lots of social challenges related to being an infertile LDS Christian. People are curious, ask questions…and, frankly, stick their noses where they don’t belong. Of course, this is hardly restricted to LDS culture; plenty of folks from other denominations, or frankly non-Christian religious traditions, likely face similar pressures.
Nevertheless, such questions are simply intensely personal and invasive. Frankly, it’s one reason I wrote that blog post to begin with: I got tired of being expected to explain myself anytime somebody decided to pry, so I decided to write out an explanation and tell them to go read it. So, being something of a master at creating awkward moments, I have discovered the ideal response that I can’t wait to use on the next person who asks me when we’re going to start having kids.
Are you ready to learn my planned response? If so, click below the fold!
Thursday my reality check was cashed. Ryan was in Austin preparing to take final exams when I received a phone call from a friend. She explained that a young lady had just given birth & did not want the baby.
I was in shock…still am somewhat. Before you get too excited, a family member of this young mother stepped forward and is going to take care of this little one.
But it made me think. Am I ready? [Read more…]